Too many times I’ve been upset by the common reaction of people about an abusive relationship: they easily jump to critics, and deny victims the legitimacy of speaking up after the story happened, saying things like: “If he was so bad to her, then why didn’t she leave? She’s stupid…”
 
The reason why a victim of abuse is afraid to open up is precisely because they know people will be so prompt to judge and shame them for what they apparently “allowed to happen”.
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​Everyone must have their heart broken at least once in a lifetime, right? Let’s accept that it’s the mandatory risk to falling in love. But even if we know it happens to everyone eventually, it doesn’t make it easier to overcome when you experience it.
​If you find yourself now in the deepest sorrow of a recent break-up, and feel lost or depressed about it, surely you will have some friends telling you “Nah… it’s alright, he was an asshole/she was a bitch, get over it, move on!!”… Easier said than done! This can be your friends’ good intention to cheer you up, but it won’t answer all the questions and suffering you feel inside.

Seven weeks post-breakup, after very depressing times while I could only feel pain and despair... I suddenly woke up "a new Me" on a Sunday morning.
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This might sound weird on unreal, but a sort of POSITIVE SHIFT had operated in my mind overnight.
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